“The risk of love is loss, and the price of loss is grief – But the pain of grief Is only a shadow When compared with the pain of never risking love.”
I’m so sorry that you are affected by grief ….Never is there such a time in life when you encounter such a diversity of feelings, as when you lose someone close.
The traditional meaning of grief is mourning for the loss of someone who has died, but although most people intuitively think it’s about losing someone through a bereavement – grief is a normal reaction to the massive, life changing dismay of losing someone, or something that is deeply valued, or loved.
Did you know that whilst grief can mean mourning the death of someone close, it can also mean the loss of a feeling of safety after a crime such as a burglary or personal attack, it could be physical, such as an assault or a sexual attack or rape? It can be for a lost relationship, death or loss of a pet, something that is valued such as a job. In this climate this year, many people are facing redundancy; grieving for jobs, missed opportunities and even life that has passed them by. Grief and loss is more about a state of mind than having hard and fast rules. The important theme is that you will go through a number of stages of grief before you emerge through the final stage – hope for the future.
Grief includes a wide variety of physical and emotional symptoms, you may feel isolated, alone, vulnerable, helpless, angry, or indignant and to make matters worse, if you’ve lost someone close, your friends and people around you may either try really hard to help, bringing you help, food, clothing wanting to take away your washing – actually anything that will make them feel useful, they may expect (almost demand that) you talk to, or confide in you to the point of intrusion or they feel so awkward that they steer a very wide berth and make you feel awkward.
If you are grieving you may feel:
- Shock or disbelief.
- Hope for the future.
- None of the above.
Are you (or your feelings) normal, or typical? The simple answer is your feelings are normal for you. Everyone has their own set of beliefs, standards and thoughts, you experience life in your unique way; so why would you expect to experience grief and loss in the same way as others?
Do you need help with grief and loss? I can help you to feel better.